Living a fulfilling life. Planning for death. These two things do not have appear to have anything in common. However, accepting the basic fact that you will, one day, die will help you live a more fulfilling life.
“I am of the nature to die. There is no way to escape death.” -Upajjhatthana Sutta
We Don’t Live Forever
Before religious practice, Tibetan Buddhists chant, “The whole world and its inhabitants are impermanent. The life of human beings is like a bubble. Death comes without warning; this body too will be a corpse.” Such teachings may seem morbid, but they’re actually designed to awaken you from denial and inspire you to fully appreciate life because you never know when it will end.
We don’t like to think about dying. As humans, we have kidded ourselves about our own permanence. It is easy to do when we get caught up in the day-to-day life. But the reality is that nothing is permanent and our own lives will end and planning for death can help you craft a more rewarding and fulfilling life.
“How sad it is that most of us only begin to appreciate our life when we are at the point of dying.” -Sogyal Rinpoche
Planning for Death Can Help Us Plan for a Fulfilling Life
We have all heard stories about people, who, when faced with and accepted their mortality have found a powerful source of happiness and peace. It may seem counter-intuitive, but this isn’t something only found in religious teachings; it’s also been demonstrated by modern science.
Many healthcare professionals report that people facing terminal illness often experience an incredible sense of peace and fulfillment in the days and weeks before they die. Many of them describe the acceptance of death as a life-changing event, confessing they never knew what it meant to live until they knew they were going to die.
The same is true for many who undergo a near-death experience (NDE). After staring death in the face, they report that their lives have much greater meaning. They frequently make dramatic life changes because they know without a doubt that any day, even today, might be their last. The idea is that we should not wait until we are facing a terminal illness or have a near-death experience to plan for death, but rather do it now to help us live the life we want to now.
This article helps put it in perspective: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14057/5-reasons-thinking-about-death-will-make-your-life-better.html
“It is only in the face of death that man’s self is born.” -St Augustine
Planning for Death Can Help Us Embrace the Moments of Our Lives
As we go through our lives, it is hard to be present in each and every moment. I am most certainly not and I think that to try and adhere to that standard would be crazy. However, accepting and planning for our inevitable death can inspire us to embrace more of life’s moments because realize that life is fleeting.
When I went through my pregnancies, I felt as though that death and life were two sides of the same coin. As I was bringing life into this world, I could also see how fleeting and impermanent it was. Planning for death is recognizing the impermanence of life and can help us enjoy the life we do have, or make changes so that we do have the life we have.
One of the biggest steps in accepting death is to prepare for it with proper estate planning. And proper estate planning is needed, regardless of how big or small you think your estate is, because no matter what, your family is going to have to handle whatever you have when you’re gone.
Indeed, facing life’s greatest fear head-on and using it as an opportunity to protect and provide for your family is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and those you love.
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